The other night, I was having a talk with my single, unattached, girlfriends. We got on the topic of what our "soul mate"
will be like. Do you, or have you ever daydream(ed) about what that person will be like? I find that I do this often. (yes, I'm a romantic dork!)
At a few points in my life, I thought I had found that person. But, it just didn't work out.
Instead of allowing that fact to get me down, I've been trying to take a different approach. Why not be excited about who that person will be! Stop thinking every guy you meet "might be the one"
Why not, keep your standards high and stop settling for someone less then what I want, just because I need "affection"
Why not keep my options open and just have fun!
My girlfriends and I sometimes play this game. (Yes, we're nerds... so what? Shhhudup!)
Anyway, Each of us will take turns telling one another what we think their future man will be like. We'll talk about what their personality might be like, how tall they could be, what color eyes they will have, the kind of career he's in and so on...
Yes, it's a bit shallow and maybe even a bit crazy, but we find pleasure in it. As well as it gives us some hope. Yes, I also know, we're grown women playing little girl games. but listen, it's fun and it makes us still feel like there's still light for each of us single unattached women.
Some women have the tendency to get so serious and attached themselves to someone before they really get a chance to know about him and who they are. This is due to the fact that society has brainwashed them in to thinking, "listen honey, you aren't getting any younger, your eggs aren't going to last forever. You better snatch yourself up a man before it's to late!!!!!!!"
I've actually witnessed a chick who started planning her wedding and was looking for wedding rings 2 weeks after meeting "this wonderful guy"
I've also witnessed some bitch who thought she'd trick her "old man"
in to proposing to her by making him jealous. She did this by sending herself flowers pretending it was some other guy who was interested in her. How fucked up is that?
We as women, need to stop taking things to freakin' seriously and start having fun! We need to get ourselves under control and get some dignity! Don't start jumping to conclusions and start making your wedding guest list and start fighting with your sister about your wedding colors. (Yes, someone I know actually did that too)
Just because some hot guy asked for your damn number.
Now if you will please excuse me, I need to finish this book on baby names...